...or whatever other orifice we're used to communicating out of.
When you meet a stranger, you have no idea where that person started from, or how far he has come from where he started. You really have no idea what he has had to overcome to get to where he is right now.
What looks to you like a train wreck, to him might be a hard-fought victory. As bad as that person's condition appears to you, it might be orders of magnitude of improvement from where he began.
And, it may be that he does not see how much progress he's made. The reality is that we are often not the best judges of where we are in relation to where we've been, and where we ought to be.
For these reasons, a tongue-lashing from you under the guise of "charity" or "fraternal correction" just might be the last thing that person needs. You really cannot know how devastating and discouraging your words can be to someone who is already struggling, and already too ready to believe the worst. And the more convinced you are of the righteousness of what you're doing, the less likely you will be to grasp the full horror of it, until you are standing before God in judgment and He confronts you with both your words and the fullness of the effects they have wrought.
Yes, we will be held accountable for every last word. As somebody with very strong opinions and a very big mouth, it's sobering to think of how much I have failed over the years to take seriously this truth that comes straight from the mouth of Christ in the Gospels.
For the sake of the common good as well as for our own welfare, we should probably all spend a lot more time with our mouths and other orifices closed.